Monday, March 23, 2015

no kid hungry | awareness

I can't stress the importance of giving back. So many of our youth go without the proper nutritious meals daily, these children are our country's future. They are the next generation of America, and they don't even have the proper tools to start a healthy lifestyle. But you can help! We all can! That is why I am thankful for brands like Earth's Best and Ella's Kitchen who have donated funds to provide 1.5M meals to the No Kid Hungry campaign in the initiative to help stop child hunger. I love that No Kid Hungry is fighting back by providing meals to kids in need.

I challenge you to talk about being part of the change in a positive way. How can you and your family help give kids across America a nutritious meal? For starters educate your own family. Teach them that they can give back, no amount is too small. Take the time to pick out healthy foods like Earth's Best and Ella's Kitchen that focus on a healthy start for kids. Package the food up and take it to your local pantry as a family! Share your stories and inspiration to encourage others to do the same!

I can't wait to hear how you and your families join us in this fight to hlep end child hunger in America! Please join us and share your stories on how you are educating your family on No Kid Hungry -- please use the hashtags #NoKidHungry and #FeedKidsinNeed along with @ruffledsnob and we will be choosing one winner to donate to a local pantry on your behalf! Don't forget to look for Earth's Best and Ella's Kitchen with the special No Kid Hungry packaging this month only at your select Walmart locations!


I also wanted little personal story about why partnering with Earth's Best and Ella's Kitchen in bringing awareness to No Kid Hungry really matters to me:

I can recall it clearly. It was one of the moments I knew my boys were growing up and we decided it was time to start taking our role as parents more seriously. What kind of people do we want to raise? How will we teach them to do good, and where do we even start?

It was one of those long days where nothing seemed to be going our way, we were tired and worn from daily life. We were at the dinner table the kids were complaining about not being hungry and one of us turned to them and said one of those annoying parent lines "Do you know how many kids go hungry each day? What those children would give to even have half the amount of food on that plate!" The words stung me. Not just because the truth behind them, but because of the way we just throw them out there when we are frustrated and when our kids are vulnerable. In moments where we are desperate and angry. It was a moment I will never forget. It was when I realized, this is not the kind of parent I want to be, to use others' misfortune to threaten my own kids. I knew in that moment that I never wanted to hear those words in our home again, not like that, not in a moment of parental desperation. I wanted to educate my children, in the right way, to love on those who are less fortunate, not to ignore it, and definitely not to use it in moments of frustration.

So we decided to change how went about educating them on child hunger. We promised to do it in a positive environment. We would talk about it often, and make sure that they really understood that it is real. My kids know about children going hungry, I have been on missions trips and we often pray for the kids across the world, but what about the kids right here? What about the kids who are going to their schools or playing at their play ground? There are so many struggles happening right in our own areas and we can't ignore it! I don't want them to look the other way; I want them to learn to give!

Actions speak louder than words
Earlier last week, on a great day, when we were all getting along, and the sun was shining we brought them to the grocery store and filled up a cart of healthy food. We told the kids to choose whatever they wanted, things they wanted for themselves! They quick went on the hunt. After they put a few things in the cart, we told them that the food wasn't for them, that we were collecting it for a local pantry, where families can go when they have nothing to eat. We also taught them that a lot of families don't always have access to nutritious meals, so it was our goal to make sure that other moms could have the chance to give their kids something to make their bodies strong and grow. They looked at us and asked questions, they talked about how they would feel if they didn't have access to fruit every day. We asked what they would feel like if they didn't get to have their favorite treats ever again, or how they might feel if they didn't even know when they would eat next. Then it made me realize what it would feel like from a mother's perspective. What would I do if I couldn't choose healthy foods for my kids, because truthfully I didn't know where we would even get our next meal. What would it feel like if my child looked at me starving and I had no food to give. In all honesty I have no idea what it feels like to go without to that extent. I can't even pretend that I can relate. All I know is, no mother should have to tell her child that they don't have dinner. We all deserve a healthy meal. We all deserve to give our child a healthy beginning. No child should ever go hungry. Ever.

So together as a family we put all the food (and some diapers, because I am a mom and I had to give diapers!) in boxes. And as a family we brought them to our local pantry. We also promised to talk regularly about No Kid Hungry and the importance of eating healthy and how we can keep on giving back.

Will you be part of the change? Don't forget to share with us how you are going to work together with your family to help! Use @ruffledsnob, #NoKidHungry and #FeedKidsinNeed and we will choose one winner and donate on your behalf!

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

kids room | a shared space


This room was designed around the amazing OEUF PERCH bunk bed (in birch)! I have seen a few room designs with this bunk and I was in love from the moment I saw it! Oeuf has this amazing way of their modern furniture designs adapting into so many styles and spaces. I look forward to the many moments the boys will share on this bunk bed. Our goal was to make it warm and welcoming yet reflect both their personalities.

Since the boys are old enough to know what they want in a room, I asked them about almost everything we did in the space so that it felt like their own. The biggest request was a bunk bed, they had been sharing a full size bed before and there was just too much physical space being invaded. The second request was that they both wanted a chalkboard wall. I love that they can color on the walls and the places their imaginations go is just exciting to see it in art form. Let me say - the though the chalkboard wall can be extremely messy, it is also worth it! The boys LOVE it! I was also nervous that the black wall would make the room too monochromatic so we found other ways to bring color into the room.

The boys really wanted an art space, originally they asked for a desk but after we found that there was a greater need for floor space, so instead we created an art wall with the paper mural and brought in the Stokke Tripp Trapp here for them to sit on while they color and draw on the walls! I love the Stokke Tripp Trapp for the older boys because it is so easy for them to move around on it, it also washes really well for when the chalk transfers. I love the idea of bringing seating into the room!


We do still need to replace the\ light fixture and we are on the hunt for hardware we love, but for now the boys are enjoying their new shared space!

What we did: Painted the woodwork white with Benjamin Moore's Dove White (we used oil based paint). Painted the walls Polo Mallet by Ralph Lauren. Chalkboard paint is also by Benjamin Moore. The closets and door felt a little too plain so we painted the door half mint and I am so happy with the pop of color, plus it ties in the bedding!

We scraped off the popcorn ceilings -- they were dingy and gray and we wanted them bright and clean. Popcorn ceilings can also harbor a lot of dust and aggravate allergies, since Rowan is more sensitive to allergies we decided this would benefit him greatly!


Bunk Bed: partnership with OeufNYC
Seating: c/o Stokke
Bedding: H&M
Cushions and stuffies: LuckyBoySunday
Rug: Ikea
Shelves:Ikea (used the ribba frame shelf and turned it upside down to display animals)
Side table: Leitmotiv
Door knob: Anthropologie
Mushroom lamp: Fawn Shoppe
monochromatic paper bag: Four Monkeys

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

one day | with no barriers

I wanted to share this video with you, it is a Samsung advertisement that took place in a real village where a hearing impaired man was shocked by his neighbors suddenly being able to sign and communicate with him.

The story in and of itself is beautiful you can watch it here 

The thing that hit me the most was at then end in the actual video footage there is a single sentence that reads "All for Murrahem to have one day, with no barriers" Those words smacked me in the head. Hard!

That is what I have been missing. I just go through my day completely unaware of what others are facing at times. Not even realizing we all have barriers that we face. I have been struggling with balancing myself as a mom and human and I have completely lost sight of focusing on those who surround me the past few years. The people I see daily that I have no interaction with, I just tell myself that I can't change their world in one moment, because heck I can't even figure out my own world. I am dead wrong. YOU CAN CHANGE THEM! YOU CAN DO SOMETHING WITH MEANING IN A SINGLE MOMENT! And not only will it make change for them, but you might start seeing more purpose in your own life.

I will admit the past 18 months have been hard for me, I have struggled with anxiety and things that I have never faced before. There was a moment in the Build-a-Bear store a few weeks ago where I was kindly talking to the lady in front of me and encouraged her briefly. To me it was nothing, it was a normal thing, a way that I often chat candidly with strangers. After we left the store Rowan turned to me and said "I  have missed that, mom." I responded "Missed what, honey" Rowan's reply left me in tears, he said, "I have missed how you chat with people. I can tell it really helps turn their day around" After the tears stopped streaming in I had realized he was right, in my own messy life I had really retracted from smiling at people and speaking to strangers. I had NO IDEA that my children had noticed. I really think that I started to change that very day, knowing that my children were watching and silently taking note of my public behaviors stirred something in me. It was time to put aside my personal fears and troubles and start to be part of something larger than myself again. It isn't easy to be vulnerable to people, but I really feel like those are the parts of life that make us beautiful individuals.

Let's not just live side-by-side but let's share this world. Let's share our stories. Have we become so self focused that we have forgotten how to spread love? And how to share the beautiful gift of living in this world together, to share this world with people who are different and beautiful in their own ways. We can learn so much from one another and yet it seems we are too busy to even notice the amazing people directly next us. How often do we go through our day and ignore the differences in the people who surround us? How many times do we see someone who is different and we refuse to acknowledge that we can be part of what makes this world beautiful for them. Yes, we are all different, and YES, IT IS BEAUTIFUL. We don't just share this world, but we can be part of each other's stories in some way. It just takes a selfless act of learning about the people around you and deciding to not only just live in the world with them, but to be part of their world. Our differences don't have to separate us.

This world is one heck of a beautiful place, don't just put your head down, look up and be part of it. A world without barriers. Can you imagine!!!!