Wednesday, April 16, 2014

style smaller | growing pains

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As a mother it is your job to protect your child. We want to keep them away from every circumstance that may harm them or hurt them. Well, once you send your child off to grade school it is a learning curve as a mom. You can't keep them away from everything, it turns more into a battle of how to teach them to deal with it and how to stand up for themselves while still maintaining a "how to be likable" factor. It is a lesson that has come well into play during first grade. Rowan is by far my meekest child. He doesn't like to stand out and he certainly doesn't want to be embarrassed and he doesn't want to be lonely. What I have really noticed is how much his wardrobe and discussing what he is wearing comes into conversation. Things he may love when at home he requests to not wear them to school for fear of being teased. My heart breaks at how young these things happen. It is overwhelming as a mom to find your child having anxiety over clothes. I mean what the crap! FIRST GRADE! Why do the kids give a rip?!? Why do they pay attention and focus on these things? There are kids who look for every opportunity at hand to tease those around them, and there is no protection from it. So, with Rowan battling how to stand up for himself yet wanting to fit in I have really taken a look at the things I am putting him in. I made a conscious and intentional effort to get things that are more athletic looking, and to stay away from prints that were questionable. It is a sad time to think that children this young pay such close attention to these things. Why can't it be cool just because you like it? Since Rowan isn't one to stand up for  himself I really had to keep in mind that kids may notice what he has on, and he won't want to stand out too much. So keeping it basic yet unique was a big task for me since I tend to like loud and dual-gender prints.

Rowan and I have  had a few discussions about clothes not mattering. I have also expressed to him how important it is to not tease other's about what they wear. He knows that it is just a fun thing to dress up, but that it in NO WAY represents who a person is as a whole. So, I let him have a say and pick out his own clothes this year. I wanted to be sure he felt confident in what he wears. We both loved these Soft Gallery finds from my friend Kinga's shop Four Monkeys - I feel like they are really natural laid-back pieces and they still have a cool athletic factor. I also let Rowan choose his shoes for the spring and he picked these sleek MAA shoes which I love because they can be sporty or dressy depending on how we pair them. I really wanted to keep his look athletic and comfortable without giving into sports gear plastered with logo and obnoxious sayings on them, I feel like this is a really great look that translates well with his age.

It is such a unique transition in parenting when you hit these "social norms" that are completely relevant. We are learning how to find our way one step at a time.

You can find Rowan's tee here // shorts here // shoes here (coming to the site soon) // bag is from here

Tuesday, April 15, 2014

create | eleni's new york

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We got the cutest little package from Eleni's New York is was a little gift tin full of Easter eggs to color mess-free! Rowan, our little starving artist, couldn't wait to get his hands in there! He spent so much time making detailed little scenes on his eggs and Brinley was a little bit more concerned when we could be done coloring and start eating the eggs! I had just as much fun as the kids making fun little faces on my eggs.

I love the idea behind this, especially because we are one of those homes where I get so excited to dye Easter eggs and 3 minutes in to it the boys are over it and I end up sitting there by myself and finishing... this way everyone was involved - there was no stress or prep. It was the perfect little after school project! I also think it is a really cute gift to send a friend who doesn't live near you. We make so many friends on instagram and this is the perfect type of gift to send someone for a Birthday! I was thrilled to have come across this cute little site and will definitely keep it bookmarked so I can have it handy the next time I want to send someone a fun little mess-free activity! I love all of their color me sets you can see them here.

Thanks for the fun little package Eleni's New York, it was delightful and delicious!


Sunday, April 6, 2014

style smaller | appaman


This week the boys were on spring break and it really was a time where I sat back and thought about the preview of what our summer was going to look like. This past year after having Wrennyn was a big struggle for me finding time to balance adding a baby into the mix while raising older children. My heart hurt, because I realized I felt out of touch with having intimate moments and time alone with each boy as an individual. I have felt tired and worn, no doubt, but I also really missed the times where I had to spend with each boy. Rowan and I really have had the biggest change in our relationship, especially as he had grown on his own just with age, he has needed my help less and less. As I thought about our summer and what all this change meant for us, I really evaluated where I was spending my time. I was trying to get rest and quiet time for myself when Wrennyn was napping, and it just didn't seem right with the boys home. I knew that this was a change I was going to work really hard at this summer. Sacrificing my alone time. I missed being present for the big boys. I missed playing games like candyland and just finding little moments to laugh together. Rowan and I started playing catch one day, and I teared up thinking of how much I missed these mild moments of being his mom and being part of simple play time activities. I realized I had really slacked off in a lot of areas. We have always treasured what a tight-knit group we are, and I felt it slipping away from me these past few months. I am so glad that while the boys had the week off, I took the time to gain some of that back. It is my goal to strive for this individual time with them this summer. To be part of the little things, the things that they feel are important. To not be so exhausted with just the mundane tasks in life that I don't listen to them when they need me most. Because the habits we form and develop now will be the building blocks for how our lives will be paved in the future, and they are the stepping stones for what our relationship with our kids will evolve to. I am trying to figure out how it all works together, but I am so thankful that kids are resilient and they have a heart of love and forgiveness. I know there are times when I have failed, just due to my lack of trying, or being overwhelmed, but I am ready to move on and be stronger and be that mom that takes extra time to listen to their hearts and their deepest worries. I want to not only be their mom, but I want to be their friend.

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We got these gorgeous suits for Easter from Appaman who is one of the few brands that specializes in fine tailoring for children. I think every young boy should have a suit in his life - something that makes him look both charming and fabulous. I love anything in chambray and I can't wait to show my boys off in these designer duds. The fit is absolutely beautiful. One of my least favorite things about boys' clothing is when they look like they are wearing a shrunken version of their dad's clothing, Appaman makes the suits so they are designed for a child's body with a modern twist on slim fit. I
can't begin to tell you how charming my boys became the moment they put their new suits on. I suppose the photos speak for themselves :)

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I also wanted to share that last summer I was asked to be part of an amazing opportunity - I was featured alongside some of the most incredible women in a feature film about blogging. Below is the the trailer. I am so thankful for the beautiful people I have met through my blog and the many life changing connections it has brought me. It was an honor to be filmed with my family and just talk about our little space where I share my heart. Thank you Chris for having us share our story, we can't wait to see the full film! I especially want to thank all of you, for following our journey, cheering us on, and being our friends. You guys mean the world to me!

American Blogger Official Trailer from Chris Wiegand on Vimeo.


Tuesday, April 1, 2014

not everybody blogs | kelly wilde

Do you guys remember my mini-series "not everybody blogs" ? Well I started it to be able to share with you the people who love inspiring lives (and, well, don't feel the need to bog about it). It is a platform to get to know these talented and beautiful women better and deeper than just the glimpse you see of them on Instagram. 

I want to introduce you guys to Kelly! She is one of the very first moms I connected with on Instagram, and Kelly is a mom who constantly inspires me and reminds me that a simple life full of love is worth more than anything in the world. Kelly is full of hope, love, laughs, and healthy eating!! I first related to her life because she always showed the real. She may not share every inch of her life, but she definitely shares the beautiful and the ordinary moments in life in a deep way. Her life is full of loving kindness. Her posts are always filled with honesty and truth. I love her little family - you can tell that she loves being a mom more than anything in the world and her kids are beyond beautiful. She has twin boys and a little girl and they all love Jesus and one another. Kelly always gives me those little nuggets of wisdom and encouragement {through her posts} when I need them. I know she is touching more people than just me each day! 

Kelly not only reminds me that our ordinary lives are beautiful, but that they are worth taking care of! She started to document her journey about clean and healthy eating and it not only shocks me what devoted eating habits she has, but it is remarkably inspiring! Eating healthy is an area that I really struggle with, but she makes it look so easy! She is so energetic and full of life, and she is so humble about it. She shares easy tips and recipes! Her eating is completely RAW! LITERALLY! Yeah, I know... my brain can't wrap around that concept either! I am so inspired by her ability to eat such a clean diet while raising little ones. It really has made me think about my habits and what I am putting into my children. 

I encourage you to get to know Kelly on her personal IG here @KellyWilde as a reminder to soak in the little things each day or follow her inspiring clean RAW eating journey here @wildelyraw to find yourself encouraged and inspired about living a healthy lifestyle. 

Read along and find out who she is, and why I fell in love with Kelly and her feed in the first place:

I first knew you as a fun, loving mother. What is the one thing that most shocked you about motherhood? 

Being a mom is the most wonderful, life-changing, and heart exploding vocation, yet simultaneously the most challenging and stretching thing of my life. My husband and I always laugh and say, "The reason God gives us babies is to teach us how not to be a baby." Ha! Isn't it true though?! I have three little ones all under three (twin boys and a baby girl born 13 months later), so you can imagine how many tears are shed (not just the babies), fights are negotiated, and corrective adjustments are made everyday. But I like to think that God is smiling, while I'm busy teaching and correcting my kids, as He gently teaches me about who I am.

What is one of your favorite ways that you and your husband manage to keep time for each other while raising 3 small kids? 
Date Night!!!! It's my favorite night of the week. The one time when we can finish a conversation, let alone have one (uninterrupted!) Ha! We guard that time + make sure once a week we get to go out alone. We also are blessed to have kids who play hard + crash hard. :) they are usually all asleep by 8...ish...{we worked really hard for that as we shaped their routine} so we could have time together to rest at night + be together 

You have really become a strong influence in my life about healthier living and eating, can you tell me what made you really transform your eating habits?
Oh my gosh, you're so sweet!! Well, I've always been interested in health and nutrition and overall have always been a pretty healthy eater, and I like to say there have been multiple layers to my health journey. But I've learned a lot over the years as i've read and studied, etc and really learned what works good for my body. But the last year has really gone to a new level as I've started incorporating a ton of more RAW food into my diet. I've changed my focus, rather then focusing on what i "can't" or shouldn't have, I focus instead on putting as much nourishment in me that I can, in the form of living, raw foods. And I like to have fun and be creative with how I do that too. It makes eating healthy so simple, easy and way more desirable! 


What is one tip you would give someone who is trying to eat healthier?
I'm convinced that any area in our life that we make all about restrictions and rules and dont's, we already end up feeling defeated in that area, and therefore we ARE defeated. God has called us to the abundant life, a blessed life. When it comes to food, if we are always beating ourselves up over the "mistakes" we made that day, or punishing ourselves for eating that donut. (Listen, sometimes you just need a good donut) or constantly counting calories, we're not really enjoying life, let alone our food, which is meant to be enjoyed. FOOD is fuel, it's nourishment that our body and cells need to thrive! Don't focus so much on what you can't or shouldn't have, but rather focus on filling your body with healthy, nourishing FUEL, foods that are going to make your body feel good, give you energy that will outlast your three year old, and give you a razor sharp wit while your at it. ;)

Where is your favorite place to shop?
On-line! Ha. Living in Boise, unfortunately we don't YET have a great selection of stores...but we did just get a Nordstrom Rack. Yeah, that's right, not a Nordstroms, a Nordstroms Rack...sigh. 

If people were visiting your area what is one place that they MUST see/visit? 
We DO have AMAZING restaurants here in Boise! So thankful for that!! Hmmm...my favorite spot right now though is Red Feather in downtown Boise.

What are your 2 favorite healthy living Instagram accounts to follow?
I absolutely love @alouette_+ @nutritionstripped

What are your 2 favorite family Instagram accounts that you recommend? Oh man, there are SO many amazing mama's that I LOVE to follow and I am so inspired by...

I honestly would have to say YOURS is one of my top faves. (and no i did not get paid to say that;)
But 2 more would have to be @herwelshness (I adore her + am so inspired by all of her posts) and @simplygrove (yes she is my cousin, haha!) but I can't help but put her too. She's even more extraordinary in person then she comes across on Instagram. She's an amazing wife, mom AND super talented woman!

What was the hardest thing for you to give up when you changed your eating habits?
CHEESE!! (cue the tears...) I am a Vegan, and cutting out the meat was no problem for me. But I do miss cheese every now and then, especially on a big slice of pizza. :)

What is one thing you hope to pass on to your children? (A trait, a belief, a view, or an actual physical item) 
My love and passion for God and for people would be the greatest thing I believe I could ever teach my children to have and it is my prayer every single night for them when I tuck them in, "That they would know the extravagant love that God has for them, that they would be confident in that love, find their identity in His love alone, and that they would freely receive His love for them, so that they can freely give it away to others all the days of their lives."

If you could be friends with a celebrity who do you most picture it would be? 
Oh this one's easy. Guilianna Rancic. (from E!news) I absolutely love her!! Shes one of those celebrities that you just know, if you met, you would be great friends in real life. She just seems so fun and down to earth :):) 

Now go and support Kelly, cheer her on, and be inspired! I am so lucky I have been able to watch her grow over the past year and a half and I can't wait to see where God is taking this beautiful woman next!