Thursday, October 10, 2013

they will remember.

You can't hide who you are from your family.

Your children see you in every circumstance. They see who you are at your best, and at your worst. The memories they will forever have engrained in their heads are those of the daily life you represent. They won't care who you were on social media. Or how happy you were that one time when you were at the orchard. They will remember the mom they lived with day-in and day-out. That filtered portion of your life is only just a tiny piece of the puzzle to your life, and your kids... well, they see the whole picture. You aren't fooling them. They know what matters to you. They know what you put first and what you hold at high regard. They see how you treat your husband and the stranger in front of you in line at the grocery.

Their ears are always open. Their hearts are always taking notes.

So who do you want to be? Who do you want to represent? Because they are watching. They are holding onto every bit of you. Know that they will remember all of it - not just the pieces that you share.

I want to be the mom that stops and gives a man sitting in the cold her husband's jacket. The mom who sits and listens to an old man's story simply because he doesn't have anyone else to talk to. The mom who leaves an extra tip to the rude and tired waitress. The mom who doesn't get upset when dinner falls onto the floor, but laughs it off and orders pizza without missing a beat. The mom with smile lines and crows feet from years of laughter and happiness. That is the mom I want my boys to see. I am definitely not that woman right now, but I pray that God gives me the patience and the means to be that way - to be an example and to be love. At all times. Not just behind filtered screens, but at all times for my children to see, because they will see. And they will remember.


13 comments:

CaseyWiegand said...

amen to every bit sweet sister. and i need pics like this in my life, they are GORGEOUS

Savvy in San Francisco said...

This is such a beautiful post - it hits so close to home! You made me cry. We all want to be that Mom whose kids will remember you for being that loving, caring and giving woman. Sometimes you get caught up in all of the stress around you and they pick up on it and they will remember. Thank you for the reminder! XX - Melissa

Jen {Pinch Me} said...

well said

Bekah @Lemons & Snickers said...

a beautiful and much needed post!! Found you on Casey's link up! :0)

justicepirate.com said...

I hope to be that mom too. Beautiful.
+Victoria+

Kate @ StyleSmaller said...

This is such a good reminder, and so beautifully written. xo

Allison said...

Agreed! What a great reminder - thank you!

Lisa K said...

so true, kinda mirrors one of my posts from this week x

Emily Kate said...

Ahhhhh such truthfilled and beautiful words, love this post lady. Thanks for sharing!

Monica said...

What a beautiful and incredible reminder.

Shio Waline said...

Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful words! This touched my heart more than you know, and is a simple and true reminder how precious our little ones are! Adore you and your blog!! :) You are one beautiful momma inside and out!!

xoxo,
Shio

Lex Wisniewski said...

I've been realizing this more and more lately. It's so hard. I'm so impatient, and I don't want my kid(s) to grow up seeing that.

dit-elle.org said...

Ok, THIS is my last comment. Love, love, LOVE THIS! Thank you.