Wednesday, April 16, 2014
style smaller | growing pains
As a mother it is your job to protect your child. We want to keep them away from every circumstance that may harm them or hurt them. Well, once you send your child off to grade school it is a learning curve as a mom. You can't keep them away from everything, it turns more into a battle of how to teach them to deal with it and how to stand up for themselves while still maintaining a "how to be likable" factor. It is a lesson that has come well into play during first grade. Rowan is by far my meekest child. He doesn't like to stand out and he certainly doesn't want to be embarrassed and he doesn't want to be lonely. What I have really noticed is how much his wardrobe and discussing what he is wearing comes into conversation. Things he may love when at home he requests to not wear them to school for fear of being teased. My heart breaks at how young these things happen. It is overwhelming as a mom to find your child having anxiety over clothes. I mean what the crap! FIRST GRADE! Why do the kids give a rip?!? Why do they pay attention and focus on these things? There are kids who look for every opportunity at hand to tease those around them, and there is no protection from it. So, with Rowan battling how to stand up for himself yet wanting to fit in I have really taken a look at the things I am putting him in. I made a conscious and intentional effort to get things that are more athletic looking, and to stay away from prints that were questionable. It is a sad time to think that children this young pay such close attention to these things. Why can't it be cool just because you like it? Since Rowan isn't one to stand up for himself I really had to keep in mind that kids may notice what he has on, and he won't want to stand out too much. So keeping it basic yet unique was a big task for me since I tend to like loud and dual-gender prints.
Rowan and I have had a few discussions about clothes not mattering. I have also expressed to him how important it is to not tease other's about what they wear. He knows that it is just a fun thing to dress up, but that it in NO WAY represents who a person is as a whole. So, I let him have a say and pick out his own clothes this year. I wanted to be sure he felt confident in what he wears. We both loved these Soft Gallery finds from my friend Kinga's shop Four Monkeys - I feel like they are really natural laid-back pieces and they still have a cool athletic factor. I also let Rowan choose his shoes for the spring and he picked these sleek MAA shoes which I love because they can be sporty or dressy depending on how we pair them. I really wanted to keep his look athletic and comfortable without giving into sports gear plastered with logo and obnoxious sayings on them, I feel like this is a really great look that translates well with his age.
It is such a unique transition in parenting when you hit these "social norms" that are completely relevant. We are learning how to find our way one step at a time.
You can find Rowan's tee here // shorts here // shoes here (coming to the site soon) // bag is from here